How to Ease Out of Social Distancing When You Have Social Anxiety

How to Ease Out of Social Distancing When You Have Social Anxiety

If you’re a naturally socially anxious person, you may be struggling with the whole quarantine thing. And I don’t mean being IN quaranitne (that was the easy part!), I’m talking about coming OUT of quarantine.

If you’re anything like me, then social distancing was probably a breeze for you. You didn’t have to socialize with anyone, and you didn‘t have to go through any social awkwardness. Score!

But now that the world is slowly starting to open back up again, you may have some anxious thoughts floating around your head, like “uh, I didn’t know how to talk to people in the first place – how am I supposed to just jump right back into this whole social thing now?!”.

What makes it even worse is that there’s now this added awkwardness because you still have to stay distanced from people, so you can’t shake hands or hug. This then begs the question – “what the heck do I do instead?!“. 

Well, have no fear! This is exactly what I’m here for!

Here are my top 4 tips on how to ease out of quarantine if you’re socially anxious

1. Write a list of social situations that make you anxious

Everyone reacts differently to different social situations. Take some time here to write a list of all the social situations that trigger anxiety for you. Is it running into people you haven’t seen in a long time? Is it hugging? Is it small talk? Big groups? One-on-one chats? Everyone is totally different. After you’ve done this, take a moment to write down whether or not COVID has made each situation better or worse.

For me, I’ve noticed that I get social anxiety when I hang out with aquaintances. I’m not close enough to them that the conversation flows easily, so I find it can sometimes feel a bit awkward.

This, of course, gets even worse when you add social distancing into the equation. Now these already-awkward acquaintance hang-outs turn even more uncomfortable because 1) we have to stay awkwardly far apart and 2) conversation gets old REAL fast (explaining what you’ve been doing – or not doing – during quarantine really doesn’t make for dazzling conversation).

Another anxiety-inducing situation for me is seeing people out in public when I’m not “prepared” for them. For example, when I’m grocery shopping and I see someone I *kind of* know. I never know if I should wave, smile, stop and talk, or just keep walking!

This is also worse with COVID because now everyone’s wearing a mask, so it’s hard to see what their facial expression is…which makes it even harder to know how to act! Ahh!

2. Write down ways that you can make each situation less anxiety-inducing

Once you’ve identified your anxiety-inducing sitatuons, it’s time to start thinking of ways you can make yourself feel more comfortable with them.

But keep in mind, “avoiding” is NOT (I repeat NOT) a valid solution! Going through life attempting to just dodge every situation that makes you feel uncomfortable is only going to add to the problem. Trust me, it may make you feel good in the moment, but it will not serve you in the long term.

Instead, try to think of little things you can do to just relieve some of your stress. It could be as simple as doing some deep breathing exercises before going into a nerve-racking social situation.

For me, I found that the most effective way to combat my social anxiety was to just expose myself to situations that made me feel anxious. I didn’t like it at first, but the more I forced myself to do it, the more comfortable I got with it. If you can get used to being comfortable even in slightly awkward situations, a whole new world will open up for you! 

3. Prepare yourself beforehand

This is something I’ve been doing for-ever! And I promise you, it works – VERY WELL.

If I’m going into a social situation where I know I may not have many things to talk about, I prepare a little list in advance of stories I’ll share or questions I’ll ask. I know, I know – it may sound a bit “over-achiever”, but hey – it does the job!

This is especially helpful for coming out of quarantine and reconeccting with people you maybe haven’t seen in several months. It can be super awkward knowing how to summarize an entire 4-5 months of your life where you’ve been doing prettttty much nothing at home!

Here’s a great list of conversation starters to get you inspired by ‘people expert’ Vanessa Van Edwards!

4. Find ways to practice – start small, and slowly work up

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – the BEST way to overcome your anxiety is to face your fears head-on. This goes for social anxiety as well!

Start by choosing low-stress social situations. What makes you slightly anxious, but not overly anxious? Talking to strangers on the phone? Talking to friends on the phone? Meeting people for coffee? Again, it’s totally different for everyone.

Once you’ve gotten used to exposing yourself to these “low-risk” situations, raise the bar a little bit. Keep working yourself up to more anxiety-inducing situations bit-by-bit until finally, you’re ready to face your biggest fears. This is called ‘exposure therapy’, and it works amazingly. In fact, it was the #1 way I was able to overcome social anxiety myself!

Other tips for coming out of quarantine

I know it can be awkward meeting people in person but still staying 6 feet apart. You may feel like you’re being cold by not hugging someone or shaking their hands. I say, just address the elephant in the room! Try saying outright, “I’d shake your hand (or hug you), but you probably don’t want my germs!”. You’d be surprised at how well this can break the tension!

I also suggest mirroring the other person and just doing what they do. This can release a lot of pressure on you to “do the right thing”. Sometimes, it’s good to be a follower!

Below, you’ll find links to some more helpful resources that will guide you in getting to the root cause of your social anxiety so that you can learn how to overcome it – I highly recommend checking them out! 

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!
The Crazy Way I Manifested My Dream Job

The Crazy Way I Manifested My Dream Job

A couple years ago I quit my high-paying job because it was making me stressed and unhappy. I took the time off to work on my mental health and figure out what I really wanted to do in life.

After a whole lotta soul-searching, I came to the realization that my one true calling was to create this blog, Mindaya. I wanted to help people, because I didn’t want anyone else to feel the way I was feeling at my worst (which you can read about here!).

Fast forward to today – I have my own online business, my mental health is in the BEST condition it’s ever been in, and I feel genuinely fulfilled. It was with this new, healthy mindset that I realized I was ready to go back to my 9-5 job. Why? because I knew that in order to make my dream work (this blog), I needed to have some extra money to help make it great. But this time, I wasn’t going to let my 9-5 job take over my life. Nope – this time, it was going to be on my own terms.

I’m now working again at the job I had years ago, but it’s a whole lot different now – that is, a whole lot better. So I thought I’d share with you how exactly I made this happen. *Spoiler alert* – it all came down to manifesting!

So to anyone else who feels “stuck” in a job or a routine that they don’t like or that makes them unhappy – I want you to know that you too have the power in you to choose what you want. Whether that’s quitting a job to find a better one, or finding the confidence to ask for what YOU want in your current job – it’s all totally possible!

Here are the things that you need to know when it comes to manifesting your dream job

 

1. You need to know what you want 

Before going any further, you need to take some time to make a goal plan and figure out what will truly make you happy on a deep level. This is going to take a lot of inner-work, so make sure you spend some time on this.

For me, I discovered that the two things that would make me happy were:

  1. Using my creative talents
  2. Not working a ton of hours

I know that I’m not the type of person that can handle boatloads of work. I just don’t have it in me. I need my rest and relaxation time – and a lot of it.

I also know that I need to be creative to feel fulfilled. This is something that is really important to my wellbeing.

At the time, my 9-5 job wasn’t giving me these two things that I needed. It wasn’t allowing me to express my creative potential, and it was far too demanding of my time.

So I knew that to combat this, I needed to do two things: first, I needed to carve out a creative outlet for myself. Enter this blog, Mindaya! Second, I needed to significantly reduce my hours at my desk job (so that I could have enough time to spend on my creative outlet!).

2. You need to ask for what you want

The next order of business in manifesting your dream job is to actually ask for it. I know this can be difficult (especially when it means asking your boss – eek!), but it’s a necessary step if you want to live a life that will make you happy.

For me, I knew that I needed to talk to my boss about my hours. So I straight-up told them exactly what I wanted – less hours, and the ability to work remotely.

Luckily, I had a great rapport with them already because I used to work with them (and they liked me!), so this was something that they were willing to agree to. Success!

The funny thing is, it was all so easy! It never occurred to me before that I could just ask for what I wanted, but that’s really all it took!

 

So once you know what you want, just ask for it. You may be surprised at what you’ll get!

 

3. You need to know your worth

When I was working at this job before, I wasn’t getting paid nearly as much as I am now. It was actually a stroke of luck that I saw the job posting online – and they were offering a lot more than I was making at the time!

This was probably to entice more experienced people to apply, but I knew that I was worth that much as well, even though I was less experienced.

It can be uncomfortable asking for money, I know. I was certainly uncomfortable when I asked for that much, but the one thing I’ve come to realize is that you need to know your own value. Don’t be ashamed of putting a good price on yourself! For me, I knew that they would get their moneys worth when they hired me at that salary – I knew I was worth that much. 

4. You need to be flexible

Although I’m now working my job on my own terms, it still may not be my “dream job” forever and ever. I know this. However, at the moment, it’s allowing me to live my dream lifestyle – and that’s the main thing. I know that in the future, my priorities may change and evolve, and this job may also change and evolve. And that’s totally okay.

So when it comes to manifesting your dream job, always remember that nothing is set in stone. Life changes every day, week, month, and year – and you will inevitably change along with it. This is a beautiful thing, because change = growth. So don’t get too attached to your current situation, whatever it may be. Things may surprise you down the road!

Happy manifesting!

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!
7 Outrageous Media Misconceptions that are Making You Unhappy

7 Outrageous Media Misconceptions that are Making You Unhappy

Lately, I’ve been kinda pissed off at the media. 

In a world where it’s getting harder and harder to make enough money to live and do the things that make us feel good (a.k.a keep us from getting super anxious!), we are also being bombarded with things in the media that make us feel even worse!

So in this blog post, I thought I’d share with you 7 of the biggest (and most dangerous) misconceptions the media is telling us. And remember – the most important thing to know when it comes to media consumption is that we all need to take responsibility for and be super mindful of what we let into our mental space (and our phones!).

1. That you need to go to school, get a job, go into debt to buy a house, and then retire when you’re too old to enjoy it

This is something I have talked about probably a million and one times before – because it is SO TRUE. We are being told that every human on planet earth should follow the same linear trajectory in life. How crazy is that? We are all completely different, and we all have our own stories to write.

So if you don’t land that perfect job right after graduating, don’t worry – pretty much none of us do. In all honesty, it’s a bit of a fantasy. And even if some people do land the job of their dreams right away, so what? Their life path has nothing to do with yours. We need to stop pretending we still live in a 1950’s sitcom. Life is so much more complex than that – we are so much more complex than that. And that’s what makes life so beautiful!

2. That you need to find the “perfect” partner (and basically everything else they teach you about romance in the movies and TV)

This is so not true. Cinderella is a fantasy, just like Bridget Jones’s Diary is a fantasy. Why? Because they don’t reflect how love really is. Love is…

Actually, there’s no one way to describe love! This is because it’s different for each and every one of us. Sometimes it’s messy, sometimes it’s confusing, sometimes it’s painful. Love can be anything. Those warm and fuzzy romantic dreams that Hollywood feeds us is nothing but a facade. Don’t forget – movies only last for 2 hours. How on earth can a 2 hour acted drama be a reflection of real life? Real life is a whole lot messier and a whole lot longer than that.

And on top of all that, the “perfect” partner doesn’t even exist. That’s right, there’s no such thing as Prince Charming. Nobody is perfect. We all have our faults, and if you expect your significant other to be some sort of God on earth, you’re going to be very disappointed (note: this shouldn’t be upsetting – it should be encouraging!)

3. That everything in life is easy and do-able

It’s a common misconception that people reach their goals in life really fast. What you don’t see, however, is all the crazy hard work that people put into it behind the scenes (and how long it took them to get there!). 

I watched one show recently that showed kids in high school developing apps in their spare time and making tons of money off of them. The show made it look so simple. Like, these kids just started developing apps on a Tuesday afternoon and it took off.

And we can’t forget the millions of influencers on our social feeds who appear to have these sparkly, perfect lives and make everything in their daily life look dazzling

The truth is, though, you’re not actually seeing all the gruelling hours of work that’s been put in behind the scenes. And on top of that, most of the stuff we do see is seriously edited anyway. 

4. That you need to have a “perfect” body and that most people have perfect bodies because you see it everywhere

I was watching ‘Friends’ recently and I couldn’t get over how good the actresses’ bodies were. They just looked so “perfect”. And as I was watching, I noticed that I began to suddenlty feel insecure about my body!  

But then I thought about it for a minute – these are professional actors who basically get paid to look good. Their job is to stay in impeccable shape. Comparing myself to this way of celebrity living is just ridiculous. I don’t want to spend most of my day working on my weight and my body – that’s just not realistic for my way of life, and I’m sure it’s the same for a lot of you, as well.

5. That mental illness is “cool”

This one is a bit of a touchy subject because if you do have a mental illness, it’s nice to make light of it sometimes because then it doesn’t feel so bad.

But there’s a flipside to this, as well. There are so many people in the media who claim that they have OCD or that they’re depressed – but they only say it to give them a “quirky” or “cool” vibe.

Again, we can look at the show ‘Freinds’. Monica basically has OCD. In the show, her OCD (although it’s really not OCD) is portrayed as something that makes her fun and silly. In reality though, OCD is a serious mental health issue, and I guarentee you that people who truly have OCD do not feel like it’s just a quirky, fun character trait. I can say from experience that it’s actually a very tormenting thing that makes you feel awful. 

6. That everyone knows exactly what to say all the time

For a lot of people who struggle with social anxiety (or just may not be very socially-adept), it can be intimidating watching all those people in the media who always seem to have the perfect thing to say all the time. It could be people on TV, in the movies, even on YouTube and Instagram – everyone’s conversation and dialogue just seems to flow so smoothly! 

But we need to remember that none of this is actually natural. People on TV and in the movies have scripts, and people on social media are just posting their highlights. Real life, on the other hand, doesn’t have the luxury of being rehearsed and edited.

So don’t compare yourself to people you see in the media – it’s a totally unrealistic standard. And I’m willing to bet that if you met a lot of these people in real-life, they probably won’t come across as such smooth-talkers!

7. That buying product ‘x’ will make you happy

I didn’t really realize this until I started an online business myself, but honestly everyone is trying to sell you something. What does this mean? It means that when they make recommendations or when they make certain posts about products, they don’t always have your best interest in mind, and they could be lying or stretching the truth.

Even things that seem super trust-worthy like university and the pharmaceutical industry are just businesses trying to sell to you! So if you think you have all the information, remember: what you see isn’t always what you get. That new, sparkly product that your favourite YouTuber is plugging may not be the Holy Grail to everlasting happiness…it may just be the key to some extra cash in their pocket!

Moral of the story: most things are an illusion and they can seriously warp our perspective of reality to the point that we start to think we’re inadequate

The media is made up primarily of things that are 1) meant to entertain you, and 2) make you feel inadequate. This is for one reason only: so that people can make money off of you

So be careful and be conscientious when choosing what media you watch. There are of course some good people out there (I hope I’m one of them!) who are trying to do things to genuinely help other people. I myself do sell some products but I also offer a lot of free information and basically I only sell products so that I can make this website and make a living off of it (and provide more free information down the road!).

And there are a lot of other content creators doing just the same, but there are bad seeds out there who ruin it for everyone. And it’s the bad seeds that have the ability to warp our minds and leave us feeling inadequate and unhappy. So when it comes to the media, remember: be picky, and take everything with a grain of salt!

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!
8 Things You Were Scolded For as a Child That Have Hurt Your Self-Esteem as an Adult

8 Things You Were Scolded For as a Child That Have Hurt Your Self-Esteem as an Adult

I think it’s safe to say that everyone struggles with their self-esteem at some point or another. It’s just human nature.

But although we may think that low self-esteem is just “our own issue”, most of the time it actually comes about because of things we were taught (that is, things were were scolded for) in our childhood!

When we were growing up, we learned from our parents, our teachers, our peers, and – of course – the media, that we should feel self-conscious and that we should feel as though we aren’t enough just the way we are. These feelings of inadequacy then became embedded in our mind, and as we grew up, it manifested in low self-esteem. And the more complicated life got, the worse our self-esteem seemed to get!

So for this blog post, I thought I’d take a look at some common things that we were scolded for in our childhood that have led to us being self-conscious as adults. And at the end of the article, I’ll explore some practical tools that will help reverse these effects! 

Not getting good grades

If you were scolded for not getting good grades as a child, then you might have started to associate your self-worth with your accomplishments in life.

This is something that so many of us do. But in reality, we should never get our sense of worth based on the things we accomplish (in school, in our career, or otherwise). Things like this will come and go – and our self-worth will fluctuate with it!

Instead, we should aim to feel worthy based on who we are as a person.

Saying something “stupid” 

If you’ve been made fun of or gotten into trouble for saying something that others deem as “stupid” when you were a child, then later in life, you may constantly feel like you’re saying something stupid.

The truth is, everyone at some point says something stupid. And honestly, it’s not even stupid – it’s just that you might have interpreted something differently or you didn’t quite understand what someone meant. Or it could have just been a total brain fart – it happens to the best of us!

We all have such different backgrounds and such different experiences – you can’t expect to know everything and be able to respond “perfectly” to everything people say.

Doing something wrong  

Children don’t have the same knowledge about what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ as adults do. This is just biology. 

While it’s important to learn right/wrong when we’re growing up, we can’t be expected to become morality masters when we’re 5 years old (or even 10, 12, or 15 years old!). If you were constantly scolded for doing something “wrong” when you were a child, you may become anxious about not doing the right thing when you’re older.

This is problematic, because humans aren’t perfect creatures, and we will all do something wrong at some point. This doesn’t make us bad, and it shoudln’t be something we’re self-conscious about. 

Getting angry or emotional

Think about the last time you were sad. What about angry? Frustrated? I’m willing to bet you can remember. Why? Because we have these emotions ALL the time!

Being angry and emotional is a totally natural part of life. The thing is, while we don’t shame adults for being emotional, we do shame kids for it!

For some reason, a lot of people get really mad at children for showing emotion. Not everybody does this of course, but you may have had experiences as a child where you were scolded for just feeling your feelings. I just want to tell you that it’s not your fault, and that it’s okay to feel these things.

If more children were allowed to express their emotions freely, then maybe we wouldn’t have as many adults who are unable to express their emotions or who bottle them all up and then have other, more serious problems as a result.

Eating something that you weren’t supposed to

Many of our parents grew up in a diet culture, so when you were growing up, you may have experienced them telling you things like “that’s not healthy!” or “that’ll make you gain weight!”.

Even if you were never “scolded” for it, there’s a lot of subtle language that can make us feel bad about our food choices (and maybe even our bodies) that can cause us to have major food issues and body image issues as adults. 

Doing something that wasn’t your fault

Sometimes when we were kids, we got into trouble for things that someone else did. When this happened to us, we didnt understand why, and we didn’t know how to process it. It just seemed so unfair.

If this happened to you a lot, you may later in life start to worry that people won’t beleive you or that people are “out to get you”. This is a dangerous thing to think, as it can cause major trust issues

Speaking your mind

How many of you remeber being told as a kid “don’t say that!”. I’m betting a lot of you!

The thing is, many children were taught that they had to behave the same way as adults. We had to say what adults wanted us to say and do what adults wanted us to do. And if we ever were to speak our minds or disagree with our “elders”, they’d get angry at us, and we’d begin to think that it’s not okay to speak our minds.

Later in life, this could lead to you feeling insecure or uncomfortable about speaking your mind for fear of being rejected or shut down. 

Not wanting to do something

When I was young, I honestly felt so bad for the kids who never got to have a say in what they wanted to do. Nowadays, there are a lot of kids who get to do whatever they want (this is a different problem!), but there are still a lot of kids who literally don’t get to do what they want – at all.

Alternatively, if they don’t want to do something that really upsets them for some reason (that reason might be hard for adults to understand, but it’s valid nonetheless) and they were pushed to do it anyway, then that would lead them believing that their opinions aren’t valid later in life. And if that happened to you as a child you may have some unconscious beliefs that people don’t care about your opinion.

How to reverse these ideas

Damaged self-esteem from childhood can be difficult to heal, but don’t worry – it’s not impossible! It just takes some practice. Over time, your beliefs can change – as long as you take active steps towards changing them. And that’s what I’m here to help for!

 Some good first steps include:

  • Journaling
  • Bringing awareness to your self-talk in situations that make you feel self-conscious
  • Actively working on self-love
  • Working on healing your inner-child
  • Therapy or counselling

Here are some helpful blog posts I’ve written about changing your limiting beliefs, fostering self-love through journaling, and healing your inner child. These will be a great help in starting you on you self-esteem journey:

30 Days of Self-Love Journal Challenge

How to Heal Your Inner Child When Your Criticize Her Every Day

Learning About Limiting Beliefs and How to Heal Them 

I also have some FREE worksheets you can have sent straight to your inbox – all you have to do is sign up below! 

And lastly – here’s a great online therapy platform I HIGHLY recommend that will help you – it’s a bit cheaper than traditional therapy and doesn’t require meeting face-to-face (perfect for social distancing!).

 

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!
12 Ways to Make Progress on Your Goals When You Feel Completely Stuck

12 Ways to Make Progress on Your Goals When You Feel Completely Stuck

Sometimes it can be really hard working towards a goal. You have all of these great plans, but then there comes various roadblocks, self-doubt, a change in circumstances, COVID!!, lack of motivation, and whatever else life throws at you.

I’ve always had tons of pretty hefty goals (some that I’ve reached, some I haven’t, and some I’m still working on) and I KNOW the struggle!

That’s why I’ve compiled a great list of things that I find always help me to find my motivation again and bust down those roadblocks! And you can do them super quickly to get back on track!

So here we go!

Ways to progress on your goals when you feel STUCK!

1. Make a list of everything you need to do. 

Just putting pen to paper can help create a flow of ideas. Make a list of everything that is making you feel stuck. Then you can go over it and see if there are ways that you can get unstuck with that. Basically just have a brainstorm session and it can help reset you and get new ideas that you might not have thought of.

2. Do some research. 

Take an hour or two to research common roadblocks that people commonly have with your type of goal. See if you can find any insight into how to overcome those roadblocks. You can even reach out to people who have had the same struggles as you and ask them about what they did to get out of those blocks. This will give you a lot of motivation and ideas to start overcoming your own roadblocks.

3. Take a break

Reset yourself for a bit. Give your brain a chance to relax a little bit. While it’s resting, you might actually get some new ideas or a new viewpoint of the whole situation.

4. Reprioritize

You might be feeling stuck because you’re not actually working on the right things and they might actually be slowing you down. 

Take a look at the things that are actually working for you and actually making your life and your work better and try to put those on the top of your to do list. You can even use a priority matrix which can help you figure out the most important things for you to be doing right now.

5. Listen to some inspirational podcasts or read some inspirational blogs

 I always find that getting some outside motivation can help you to re-jig your brain and make you feel way more motivated.

6. Watch a movie that relates to your life right now

I find that movies, tv shows, and other creative media can help me spark creative ideas. Even if they aren’t fully related to what you’re doing, they actually just have a way of sparking something in your brain and making you think differently and possibly lead to some new ideas and motivation.

7. Reach out to someone who is currently doing what you would like to do

 Not only will you get some really good advice, but this will also help build your network and maybe bring you new opportunities in the future.

8. Join a Facebook group in your niche

There are so many awesome Facebook groups out there and so many people who just want to help you or who are going through the same things as you. 

I’m in a couple of groups and the women in the groups are so supportive and so engaged that it really does bring you motivation. And people tend to ask a lot of questions which might help you with problems you have been wondering about.

9. Forgive yourself and get out of the shame spiral that’s causing you to get down on yourself

Sometimes we get caught in these negative thinking patterns that cause us to feel unmotivated and unengaged in our goals. We get down on ourselves, lose our confidence, and then it becomes a downwards spiral.

So to fix this, you need to acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes, can be lazy sometimes, and can feel stuck – and you’re no different! Don’t let your past mistakes stop you from continuing NOW.

 

10. Get an accountability buddy

Even if they aren’t doing the same things as you, you guys can keep each other accountable on your own goals. 

This is a great way to fuel your motivation and help you to take action! I almost always need some external motivation to do the work that I need to do to reach my goals.

11. Remind yourself of why you want to reach your goal

You might realize that the reason you feel stuck is because you’re actually not as excited about your goals anymore, so maybe you need to shift your goals a bit. 

Or you just need to be reminded of the end goal, So that you can just give your motivation a little boost.

12. Find ways to enjoy the process. 

You don’t want to only focus on the end goal, you need to find a way to make the process enjoyable or else it’s just not worth it.

Now if you want a little bit of extra help with this, I have an awesome free goal planner that helps you figure out all of this stuff, like motivation, prioritizing, and other uncommon but crucial things that go into planning your goals. (By signing up, you’ll also get access to TONS more free resources!)

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Sagesse ("Say Jess")

Owner of Mindaya

Hey guys, it’s Sagesse – the face behind website! I’m dedicated to helping you find freedom your anxiety and overcome the mental obstacles that are standing in the way of your best life!