How to Design Your Dream Life: 5 Steps Towards Creating the Life You Have Always Wanted

How to Design Your Dream Life: 5 Steps Towards Creating the Life You Have Always Wanted

So today’s post is going to be a nice and inspirational one! I hope my other posts are also inspirational to you guys, but this one hopefully will get your butts in gear if you haven’t already started creating your dream life!

If you decide to focus on what you want and follow my steps, you can be as happy as this guy!

I think a lot of people have an idea in their head of what they want their life to be like, but don’t actually think that they can achieve it. I think some people are also too caught up in how they think life should be that they haven’t even considered that they could have a lot more of what they want from life!

What I have learned in the past few years, is that if you can narrow down what you want in life to the few (but important) things that make you happy and just focus on them, you will be able to achieve them and you will be very happy. Maybe you can’t do or have it all, but you can certainly have the things that will really make your life wonderful.

So here are the steps you can take towards designing your dream life.

Step 1 – Figure out what you actually want from life.

Maybe you know this already, but maybe you don’t. A lot of us forget what we really want from life as different stresses and events come up in our lives and get on top of us. There are also a lot of things that we think we want in life (a big house, a nice car, the best clothes) that actually don’t contribute to our overall happiness.

What do you want to do and accomplish in life?

How do you want to feel?

Who do you want to surround yourself with?

What skills do you want to learn?

Do you want to design your dream life around your career?

Do you want to design your career around your life? (I chose this option – I have way too many non-career related things that I want to do)

Step 2 – Figure out what you don’t want in life

There are a lot of things that we face on a daily basis that do not bring us joy and often bring us stress, anger, and sadness. Yet for some reason, we still allow these things (or people) into our lives.

You should do some reflection to see if there are certain stresses, people, activities, or burdens that would be better off not in your life.

This can also go for things that you may enjoy right now, but may not serve you in the long run.

For me, this is alcohol. It’s super fun, but it makes me way less productive and I feel like crap the next day – so I’m trying to just cut it out of my life.

You should also ask yourself how much money or how many material possessions you really need in life. This can take a lot of stress off in your life, and like most people, you might be inclined to work your life away just for money.

When I decided that I didn’t need a ton of money in my life, I felt a huge weight lift off of me and I felt like my options for what I wanted to do completely freed up. If I didn’t need a crazy amount of money, I could pursue a career that I love and not something that could make me a lot of money (but stress me out too much).

Step 3 – Get rid of things that get in your way

This includes the stuff that you have identified in step 2.

It also includes beliefs and negative self-talk that are preventing you from having the life you want.

Deep down, a lot of people will believe that they are not worthy or that they don’t think they will be able to achieve what they want.

You can read more about limiting beliefs in my article here.

Some people think that the only people who achieve these great lives were lucky or “caught a break”. While sometimes that may be slightly true, for the most part these people just worked really hard and completely focused on what they wanted and abandoned the things that got in their way.

You should also think about the other ways that you might be getting in your own way. The biggest way I can think of is procrastination. This should be something that you try to avoid at all costs. You can read my article on my effective ways to beat procrastination here.

Step 4 – Create a plan

Create a big plan. Map out how you want your life to look. Then identify your major goals. Then, identify smaller and smaller subsets of those goals that you can do in the shorter term to help you reach those goals.

If you want some extra help planning that, you should sign up for my free Dream Life Goal Planner that helps you find your passions and help you plan SMART goals in a way that will help you to achieve them!

Step 5 – Take action now!!

There’s no time like the present. You don’t want these dreams to stay as distant dreams, you want to start making them a reality.

As you work on these dreams more and more, you will start to feel more motivated and you will begin to see that this awesome life is really within your grasp.

And another thing to remember is to create a life that you enjoy while working towards the life of your dreams.

I have found that as I solidified what my ideals were and how I wanted to feel in life, I currently am living my dream life even though I have not reached all of the goals that I have.

You want to enjoy the journey.

And if you want some extra help designing your dream life and making it a reality, you should check out my Dream Life Goal Planner. It has everything you need to inspire and jump start your process of creating a life that you truly love. It has journal prompts, goal mapping inspiration, and a SMART goals worksheet! You can sign up at the bottom of this page!

How to Find Goals that Align with who you really are

How to Find Goals that Align with who you really are

So this blog is going to talk a lot about personal development and taking steps towards living the best life possible.

One of the best ways to do this is to continuously remind yourself of your goals. If your goals are in the forefront of your mind, then you will be more likely to do things in your everyday life that will bring you closer to them.

BUT what if you don’t truly know what your goals are? Sometimes we have these goals that we are working so hard at, but then we realize that they aren’t what we really want.

Before you really start working towards your goals, you need to start figure out what you truly want from life and make sure that aligns with who you are and the person you want to be.

From personal experience, I found that no matter how hard you work at something (for me it was my engineering degree), if it is not the right thing, you will most likely be discouraged because you won’t be accessing your true potential.

When I was taking my engineering degree and even looking for a job in that area, it honestly felt soul sucking and discouraging. I felt like I was so inadequate!

Deep down I knew that I was a capable and smart person, but it did not feel that way when I was doing the wrong thing. It wasn’t really until I was in the job hunt, spending so much time and energy trying to get a job THAT I DIDN’T EVEN WANT!

It seemed so silly! And then I realized that I didn’t even know what I wanted any more. I had lost touch with who I was and what my goals were, so much so that I just didn’t feel like myself any more.

So with that said, don’t waste your time on goals that don’t align with who you are and what you really want! And the first step to figuring out what you really want is…

Getting in touch with your true self

Your true self is the ideal person you want to be – the person that is buried under all the crap and limiting beliefs in your life.

It’s the most authentic you that you can be. It’s not the person others want you to be or who you think you should be, it’s the best version of yourself that you can imagine.

Now it does take quite a bit of introspection to get in touch with your true self. I have a post about it that will help you get started with this process. You can find it here. 

Visualize your ideal life

After doing some introspection and really figuring out yourself and your values, it’s very important to think about the life that you want to create for yourself.

This is a great thing to do because you probably already have an idea of what your ideal life is, but you just might not think about it that much or you might think that it is too unattainable to give it any real thought.

Here are some prompts/questions to help you visualize and write out your ideal life:

  • How would you feel every day?
  • What would you do every day?
  • Where would you live?
  • Who would you spend your time with?
  • What would inspire you?
  • What would you have you accomplished?

These are just a few little things to ask yourself, but the main thing you should focus on is making sure that you feel great about what you are writing down.

Also, while answering these questions, don’t limit yourself. Indulge yourself in your richest fantasies, because they can be entirely possible if you dedicate yourself to achieving them.

Try to think of what you would want and what you would do if you didn’t have any barriers. Don’t think about money, the education required, the time it will take, or even the fact that it is something that most people would deem to be “unattainable”. Just write them down!

Whatever your ideal life is, it should make you feel inspired and have a bit of a flutter in your chest and stomach. It should just feel right.

What would you have to do to get to this ideal life?

Your ideal life should be based on some steps you would have to take to get there.

If you were to achieve your dream life, was it because got your dream job? Or that you worked on just being happier? Maybe it’ll be because you’ve traveled the world, found great friends, gotten over a fear, and the list can go on.

Now, take a look at what you have written down here, and these are your shorter term goals!

What if you have other goals that didn’t make it to this list?

If you have other goals that you did not write down during this process, write them down now.

Write down a list of anything else that you would want to achieve or want in your life. Once you have done this, combine it with the goals from above.

Also, ask yourself if any of these goals are too small and if you are underestimating your ability to get them. Make sure you dream big!

*Disclaimer: Dreaming big does not equal dreaming greedily. Your goal should not be to be a billionaire or sit on a yacht and eat caviar out of a golden chalice every day. But if you want success or money, your goal should be something along the lines of being successful at the thing you like, or running a company that does xyz. Those are big goals that are more about what you are accomplishing, rather than just having something

You should now have a decently long list of good goals that hopefully line up with your true self.

BUT, just in case these don’t fully align with what you really want from life, there are a few questions you can ask yourself to further refine these goals a bit.

How to refine your goals

Here is a list of some good questions to think about, that will ensure that you are not letting other things get in the way of what you really want, such as expectations others have for you or if you are trying to prove something to somebody.

  • Do I want any of these goals to impress others?
  • Do I have these goals because of rules that society has imposed on me?
  • Do I have these goals because of pressure from my family?
  • Do I want these goals so I can show off or brag about them?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, your goals are not good goals. They are either goals for others or for your ego. They are not for your true self! So scrap them!

Making these goals become a reality

At this point, some of your goals might be pretty hefty. Which is totally fine! You should be dreaming big!

But, sometimes big goals can be a bit overwhelming, so the best thing to do is to break these goals down into smaller, well-defined pieces.

 

Having clearly defined, smaller goals will help you to feel less overwhelmed and be able to start working on things immediately that will help you reach your goals.

You may have a lot of smaller goals, which might make your list really long, but that’s ok. I have actually designed my own goal planner that will help you with each step of the process and will help you sort out and plan your goals!

You can sign up for it below! It has journal prompts to find the right goals for you and lots of tips for planning out how you will reach your goals Plus, I have included a SMART goals worksheet, which is very helpful to clarify your goals and make sure that you will be able to achieve them! There’s lots of information in it including how to create better habits that will help you reach your goals, so be sure to check it out! Good luck with your goals!

 

How to Feel More Motivated and Productive by Using Your Creative Talents

How to Feel More Motivated and Productive by Using Your Creative Talents

You know when you get stuck in a rut and you just have ZERO energy to do anything? You know when you feel unfulfilled, uninspired, and upset because you feel like you could be doing so much more?

I used to feel this way all the time. When I was in university, I was constantly working, but somehow I still wasn’t getting the amount of work done that I should have been getting done.

I was confused, disheartened, and mad at myself. I thought something was “wrong” with me. Why wasn’t I being more productive?! Why couldn’t really do anything?

It wasn’t until after I graduated university that I realized that working A LOT isn’t the same thing as working SMART.

Now, the topic of ‘working smart’ is worthy of a blog post in and of itself, but I’ll save that for another day. Today, I want to talk about the connection between productivity and creativity.

I believe that the key to being productive is being inspired to actually want to work! And to be inspired to actually want to work, you’re going to need to do something that aligns with your specific creative talents.

If you want to work HARD, you have to do stuff you LIKE

Revolutionary stuff right?!

Why is it that something so simple and so obvious can be SO difficult? Why don’t more people just do what they love?!

As someone who did things that I did NOT love for a long time, I have to say that I get it. It’s because we trick ourselves into thinking we “can’t” do the things we love. We say things like, “I don’t have time”, or “I have something more important that needs to be done first”.

These are just excuses.

Doing things that you love are the things that are MOST worth your time. Why? Because they’re the things that are going to make your soul feel alive!

For some reason, many people (including my younger self) feel like it’s a “bad thing” to prioritize their feelings. This is SO backwards. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not worked away.

I mean, working hard is great (and it can definitely get you far), but if you overwork yourself, the quality of your work will start slipping, and you’ll feel completely unmotivated.

Besides, when you do things you enjoy – whether that’s art, journaling, hiking, playing music, doing yoga, reading, or whatever it is – you’re actually using different parts of your brain which can end up making you more productive in other areas in your life!

There are so many different things that you could enjoy doing, and I know that not all of them are necessarily creative. But in this post, I want to focus specifically on how creative hobbies are good for you.

The reason why creative hobbies in particular are so good for you is because they allow you to express your TRUE SELF far more than other activities do.

You can only access this self when you’re doing something that allows you to 100% JUST. BE. YOU. Being true to yourself allows for many wonderful changes. For instance:

  • You’ll get to know who you truly are
  • You’ll gain more confidence in yourself
  • You’ll gain more life experience which will help you approach problems in other areas fo your life differently
  • You’ll meet like-minded people that you can connect with about shared hobbies (this is my favourite benefit of doing creative things!)

And most importantly… You’ll end up realizing how FULL and AWESOME your life is!

I can’t advocate enough for this, because my life changed so dramatically after I started doing more of the things that I love – especially my creative passions.

I felt confident in my abilities, I met and connected with people I wouldn’t have met otherwise, and I felt a million times more inspired (which ended up making me WAY more productive in other areas in my life!).

Okay, but what if you have no inspiration whatsoever and can’t possibly imagine being motivated to do something?

This was my life in university. I couldn’t stand my program, I never wanted to do any work, and I had no motivation to do anything else.

If you relate to this situation, then please take a good, long look at what you’re doing and ask yourself: is it even worth it?

If you’re NEVER inspired, then it may be a complete waste of your incredible potential. If you can’t change the path you’re on right now, don’t worry. You can still find inspiration by doing the things you love on the side.

Okay… but what if you’re super busy and can’t seem to fit anything fun into your schedule?

If I’ve learned one thing in my self-growth journey, it’s that you can ALWAYS spare a half hour to do something you love. In fact, it’s healthy to have a break every once and a while – you need to give your poor brain a rest!

Just start out by setting aside 10 minutes a day for doing the things you love.

Sketch, write a song, write a little story, or go to that dance class you’ve been meaning to go to. I promise you won’t regret it. And I promise you will feel amazing.

We humans are a very creative species – we need to express ourselves to feel fully alive. I want to help you connect with that side of yourself so that you can be the very best version of yourself that you can be. I’m also along for the ride with you, so in my blog posts to come, I’ll constantly be experimenting with new ways to help get you in touch with that brilliant soul of yours.

If you want to learn more about how your hobbies and passions can add fire into your life, then I suggest checking out my Anxiety Course! In the course, I’ve dedicated an entire section to discussing why adding more of what love is ESSENTIAL to living a happy, fulfilled, and anxiety-free life! Honestly, one of the biggest causes of anxiety in the world we live in is feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied with our lives. I know how difficult it is to find time to do the things you love, but it is SO necessary for your mental health! 

6 Ways Minimalism Will Help You Achieve Your Goals

6 Ways Minimalism Will Help You Achieve Your Goals

I’ve been a goal-oriented person for most of my life. From always trying to get the best grades in school, to getting my chemical engineering degree, to starting an online business! I like to focus on achieving things and getting things done!

Now, while achieving things is great, it can also cause a lot of burnout. This was so true for me – I was always doing WAY too much and stressing myself WAY out to the point that I just became overwhelmed.

I knew something needed to change. And this is where the life-changing concept of MINIMALISM comes in.

What is minimalism?

Minimalism is a fairly straight-forward idea. In a nutshell, it just means to live with less.

It’s not necessarily about getting rid of all your stuff, it’s about getting rid of the thoughts and ideas that are cluttering your life and holding you back.

In other words: just focus on the things that matter.

So when it comes to you goals, minimalism and achieving go hand-in-hand because minimalism gives you FOCUS.

If you’re a goal-oriented person like I am, then I highly suggested checking out this goal planner. It’s made by this super awesome blogger, Nadalie Bardo. She’s the Queen of slaying goals and the proof is in the pudding: she’s a super successful blogger and is just pumping out amazingly helpful content ALL the time.

If you’re a bit new to the goal planning world, you can check out her awesome Goal Setting 101 Course.  This course has everything you need to focus in on your goals and just get them done!

But in mean time, you can start out with my minimalist tips for achieving your goals!

6 ways that minimalism can help you achieve your goals:

There are two different elements of minimalism – there’s the physical side (having less stuff), and then there’s the mental side (thinking about less stuff).

So let’s start with the physical side of minimalism:

1) Less crap to deal with

This one is simple, but it’s also the most important.

When you become a minimalist – or even just start following some basic minimalist principles – you’ll be getting rid of a LOT of clutter. When you do this, you’ll probably begin to notice that all of a sudden you’ll have so much more time and energy that you can spend on doing stuff you actually love rather than just focusing on cleaning/dealing with/managing all your “stuff”.

2) Less distractions

If you have a huge house with tons of electronics, multiple cars, and different gadgets, those things are very likely going to distract you. And they probably aren’t the best use of your time.

Plus, material things eventually require repair/maintenance/replacement, which can take up your time that you could be spending on more important things

To top it off, when you keep wanting to buy more things, it’ll always be on your mind. That means more time spent thinking about shopping (an extreme time-killer).

3) Less spending and more financial freedom

This one’s a no brainer. If you have less and buy less, you will spend less. That way, you’ll have more money to invest in what really matters.

Getting rid of most of my stuff was the best decision I’ve ever made.

After spending 4 months living out of a small backpack while I was traveling, I realized just how happy I can be without all my junk.

I also feel more financially free than ever, because I know that I don’t need as much stuff in order to be happy.

I no longer feel the pressure to sell my soul just to make money – because I know I don’t need that much of it. I’ll be totally happy in my life with just a modest income.

Now that we’ve gone over the 3 “physical” elements of minimalism, it’s time to take a look at some of the more “mental” elements:

4) Less worry about things that don’t matter

If you really follow the principles of minimalism, you’ll probably feel the need to get rid of not only physical clutter, but mental clutter too.

I found that there were certain things that I thought about a lot on a daily basis, but they were not really serving me. They just kind of stressed me out.

One example for me was stopping the use of social media.

Now I still have accounts, but I rarely use them. Reason being is that I found I would think about it way too much. So, I unfollowed pretty much everyone on facebook, and basically only used instagram to follow my close friends and inspirational people.

This was a long time ago, and it has brought me so much mental space for other things, it’s crazy. I actually highly suggest it to everyone because social media can be crazy addictive.

If that example isn’t as relevant to you, here are some other examples of things that you could do to reduce some mental clutter:

  • Stop watching so much tv/Netflix
  • Stop watching the news, or looking up irrelevant information
  • Cutting out toxic people from your life (if possible)
  • Stop spending your time doing things that don’t truly bring you joy
  • Quitting a job or activity that is causing more stress than good

Just take a minute to think about things in your life that are taking too much of your mental energy and start reducing them. It will free you up for much better things.

5) More focus on the things that do matter

So with all that mental and physical clutter out of the way, you will naturally have more time to focus!

This is integral when it comes to achieving your goals because you really do need to be able to focus.

And then when it comes time to have a break, you can actually relax and not being doing a bunch of unnecessary things.

6) Having a clearer vision of what you want

After numbers 4 and 5 have started working, then you will naturally start to have a clearer vision of what you want.

Some of you might already have a very clear vision of what you want from life, which is amazing, but a lot of us don’t.

My vision of what I want is pretty clear now, but it wasn’t before. I had an idea, but I found I was still focusing on some of the wrong stuff.

Sometimes I still am. I find though that every day, what I want becomes clearer and clearer.

It turns into a bit of a positive feedback loop, because as my goals solidify and become clearer, everything I do is focused on that, and then I start the reassess and refine my goals even further.

Then, with that kind of clarity and focus, your goals will start to almost come to you naturally.

Obviously you will have to put some hard work in, but all that work will be completely directed at helping you achieve the life that you want.

So if you were maybe sceptical about minimalism before or you need a little extra focus with some of your goals, you should definitely give minimalism a go!

BTW – this barely scratches the surface. There are so many other ways that minimalism can change your life, mind, and overall happiness. So I will get to those soon!

If you’re interested in learning more about what lifestyle changes you can make to help you live better, then I suggest checking out my free goal setting course! Which comes with 5 days of helpful information that will help you to make the lifestyle changes that will help you reach your goals! Plus tons of other free helpful worksheets!